When someone believes in you, everything can change — fear decreases, confidence increases, the bravery to aim higher and take a leap grows. Small children know their parents believe in them, and so they feel supported. This often makes them fearless and willing to try anything without a doubt in their minds that they can achieve it. They dream big and imagine a future that’s limitless.
Unfortunately, as we grow older and learn more about the world around us, doubt often creeps in. Though we may still have our parents standing behind us, we might start to self-impose limits and compare ourselves to others. The days of fearless leaps may have come to an end. But what happens when others believe in you? I mean REALLY believe in you?
They illuminate our best qualities. When someone is specific about why they believe in you, it can often make you more aware of and more confident in your strengths. If your best group of girlfriends proclaims that you can organize people’s chaos-ridden closets better than anyone, could it inspire you to go into business as a professional organizer? If your brother notes that the poem you wrote for your grandmother’s 90th birthday was descriptive and print-worthy, would you consider submitting your work to a contest or publication? As people point out our talents, it helps us examine them, fine tune them and use them more confidently in our lives.
They help us focus on the positive. Unfortunately, many of us are quick to focus more of our attention on our faults than on our strengths. When others believe in us, they note the positive and help us change our focus. If they expect the best outcomes for us, then we begin to expect better outcomes for ourselves. Positivity is powerful.
They expect us to do more. If you have coaches, teachers or other types of leaders rooting for you, they will naturally push you to do more. Receiving encouragement to reach personal goals builds confidence and momentum. In wellness coaching, I work as part cheerleader, part motivator and part advisor who helps with self-discovery. Clients and I work together to create goals so I know where each person wants to be. I encourage clients as I help them sort through challenges. I expect them to move forward, and they usually do because I believe in them.
They teach us to believe more in ourselves. When someone truly believes in you, that feeling becomes contagious. Hearing about your best qualities, focusing on the “cans” instead of “can’ts” and meeting or exceeding expectations changes the way you think and feel about yourself. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, “Magic is believing in yourself, and if you can do that, you can make anything happen.”
Let’s make some magic. I believe in your ability to build your best life and would love to help you get started. Contact me, Karen David. At Live Life Well, LLC, we empower each client, offering a celebration of living a productive life and moving toward a healthier you!
A nurse for more than 25 years, Karen David is a Certified Wellness Coach and Lifestyle and Weight Management Specialist. She brings her passion for well living and calm presence to empower others in health and wellness. Karen is CEO of Live Life Well, LLC.
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