Here’s a little story about two brothers we’ll call Gavin and Ethan.
Gavin, now age 9, had four years of being an only child and very naturally became accustomed to playing alone. When his little brother Ethan arrived, Gavin sought out alone time away from his brother. Ethan, on the other hand, never seems to know what to do without Gavin. He looks to others to occupy him and rarely prefers to be alone.
For many of us, spending time on our own comes naturally, while others, like Ethan, need a little help filling the space. It’s worth it to work at it, though, because time alone can be healthy and offer important benefits.
Gifts You’ll Receive From Spending Time Alone
- You’ll increase your self-reliance. So often we lean on others to help us make decisions, but if we rely too heavily on their thoughts and opinions, it can drown out our own inner voices. Finding quiet time alone to sort through our problems can make us more self-reliant and improve our confidence by realizing our abilities. You may be surprised at how much you discover about yourself and your inner strength when you are alone.
- Your productivity will soar. Alone time is the perfect time to focus on your goals or hobbies. Without distractions from others, you’ll be amazed at the progress you’ll make. With practice, you’ll improve your concentration more and more.
- You’ll think deep thoughts. In the hustle and bustle of your day, are you ever able to escape the thoughts about your endless to-do list? Escaping from it all will allow you to think deeply and ponder bigger issues that really matter to you. Taking time for deep thought increases your creativity and creative problem solving ability, as well.
- Your relationships will improve. It’s important to take time to really get to know yourself and understand why you respond to situations the way you do. When you gain greater insight about your own thoughts, feelings and responses, you’ll be better equipped to positively interact with others. There’s also the saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” While you don’t have to go far from your friends and family, spending some time apart makes time together more enjoyable.
- You will recharge your battery. Being a friend, mother, sister, volunteer and whatever other roles you fill can be exhausting and emotionally draining. If you want to best serve those around you, keep your own battery charged. Step away from the constant interaction to breathe and do what makes you happy. You’ll come away refreshed and ready to continue filling all those roles.
Giving Time to Yourself
It can be difficult to find the time and space to be alone. Here are some suggestions to help:
- Unplug – Technology can eat away hours of our day. Unplug your cell phone and step away from electronics.
- Be deliberate – Create a new hour in the day for your time alone. Get up earlier or stay up later to find your own space.
- Shut the door – Make a cute sign that says “Creating Magic — Come Back in an Hour,” so people understand you’re serious about your space.
Remember, even if you’re naturally an Ethan, like everyone, you still require some time alone. If you need help recharging and rejuvenating your spirit, contact me, Karen David. Together we’ll create a plan to help you tap into your inner strengths and find the balance you’re looking for in your life.
A nurse for more than 25 years, Karen David is a Certified Wellness Coach and Lifestyle and Weight Management Specialist. She brings her passion for well living and calm presence to empower others in health and wellness. Karen is CEO of Live Life Well, LLC.
This article is for informational purposes only. Practices, services or products described are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Please speak with a doctor before beginning any new health regimen.