Trust can be difficult to have in other people, but what about trusting in ourselves? Do you find that you have difficulty following your gut or believing in the choices you make? Always second guessing yourself and your action is a hard way to go through life. Having self-trust is a key factor in leading a healthy, balanced life.
We know friends, family, coworkers and other people in our lives could betray us at any time. But we trust despite this, because love and friendship are worth it! We need to give ourselves the same kindness, respect and courtesy. You can be your own best friend.
How Do I Develop Self-Trust?
If you don’t currently have a lot of trust in yourself, have no fear. There are ways you can build a higher level of self-trust. Consider these ideas as you focus on building your relationship with yourself.
- Weed out negative people. Nothing can steal your self-trust and self-confidence quicker than being surrounded by negative people. Don’t let them control you or your thoughts about yourself. Stop and think: Do I really want them to be part of my life? Consider how you feel when they are around you and follow your gut feelings. If they constantly have you doubting yourself, spend less time with them or cut them out altogether!
- Hold true on your promises. We all make promises to ourselves. If you made a promise to a friend or to your child, would you keep it? Of course you would! You love them, respect their feelings and want to preserve your positive relationship. You need to give yourself the same respect. You may promise yourself that you will set boundaries with the negative people in your life. Keep that promise. Learn to trust that your thoughts and feelings are valuable and worthy of your trust and promises.
- Use your kindest words. Starting right now, be keenly aware of your self-talk. What are you thinking about yourself? How are you talking about yourself to others? Are you more focused on your weaknesses than your strengths? Stop and think about how you would speak to a friend, and then review some things you’ve said to yourself today. Would you say those things to a friend? If not, it’s time to work on your self-talk. Say kind things that build yourself up rather than tear yourself down.
- Believe you can overcome. Self-trust means believing that you can overcome the bumps on the road of life. If you get knocked down, a positive level of self-trust assures you that you can get back up and keep on truckin’. The lower your level, the longer you are likely to stay down. So how do you start believing? Focus on your strengths. Are you resilient? Are you outgoing? What traits do you have that would help you get back up after a fall? Focus on these amazing strengths to boost your self-trust and belief in yourself. List them out on a sticky note on the fridge so you’re reminded of them daily.
Self-trust doesn’t mean you believe you will succeed at everything all the time. It means you believe you can get through a variety of situations. Practice your positive self-talk and honor your feelings to boost your self-trust.
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A nurse for more than 25 years, Karen David is a Certified Wellness Coach and Lifestyle and Weight Management Specialist. She brings her passion for well living and calm presence to empower others in health and wellness. Karen is CEO of Live Life Well, LLC.
This article is for informational purposes only. Practices, services or products described are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Please speak with a doctor before beginning any new health regimen.