So many of the changes we seek in life must begin with a change in behaviors. When we want to trim our belly bulge, we must change our exercise and eating behaviors. To achieve increased work success, we must get serious about our professional development and habits. To bring about change, we must focus on our values and actions. Here are some steps to take to make “mission impossible” all the more possible.
- Assess your true desire. Saying you want to do something and really FEELING it deep in your gut are two different things. Are you just paying lip service, or do you really want to make a change? What sacrifices and actions are you willing to take to get it done? Tapping into your deepest feelings and meditating on them for a bit will help you realize your true desire. Once you know what you’re seeking, it’s time to consider it further.
- Weigh the pros and cons of change. Remember those old pros and cons lists where you list each down two columns of paper? It’s time to bring them back out. On one side of the paper, list the wonderful things that will come about because of your changes in behavior. Will you lose 10 pounds? Will you find a new job or gain new skills? Next you must face the cons of your proposed change. Will you have to sacrifice other activities to find time to exercise? Will you be stretching your budget too much to pay for skill-development courses? Look at your list and weigh your options.
- Work on your confidence. Change can be scary – you’re not alone in feeling that. Finding the strength and courage to make that initial change can be tough. Take time to meditate on the true reason you’re making your changes. Use visualization and picture yourself as if you have already reached those goals. Tape affirmations like “I am successful and able” to your bathroom mirror. Feel your confidence building.
- Make the change. Create a plan to reach your goal, and I mean baby step by baby step. Start as small as you need to. Tiny behavior changes create a snowball effect and help you reach your big goal. Form a support network to cheer you on as you work towards goals – a wellness coach, significant other, friends, etc. Tell them your goals and let them know ways they can support you, for example, not making gatherings centered around food for a while, becoming an exercise partner, offering you quiet time to study, etc.
- Create habits. Your habits are daily activities of living well — a balance of self-care, care for others and the environment. Again, start small — just change what you eat for breakfast first, or go for a walk on your lunch break. You don’t have to turn your life upside down to create change. In fact, starting small can help you stay motivated and less likely to quit. Just take one course at a time; don’t bite off more than you can handle. These will help you make your little changes become habits.
As time passes and you stick to each tiny habit, you’ll be able to see that snowball effect I mentioned above. They all become cohesive and directed toward one common goal – your ultimate goal. Plug along and seek help when you need it.
Wellness coaches are the perfect partners when you are seeking change. I would love to help you change your behaviors and become the person you want to be. Contact me, Karen David, to get started on your journey.
A nurse for more than 25 years, Karen David is a Certified Wellness Coach and Lifestyle and Weight Management Specialist. She brings her passion for well living and calm presence to empower others in health and wellness. Karen is CEO of Live Life Well, LLC.
This article is for informational purposes only. Practices, services or products described are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Please speak with a doctor before beginning any new health regimen.